Dear Manu, it sounds like a difficult transition, which is always the case when we uproot from one home and make another. Of course, we can never know the outcomes of what we do in advance. All you know is that you were making the best decision you could at the time when you decided to emigrate. I hope things settle down and that you come to feel that Canada is a good new home.
Hi Robert. I am a regular listener of your podcasts on Insight Timer. Now I have just started reading your posts on Substack. I am going through tough times right now. Two years ago I left a cushy job and immigrated from Mauritius to Canada thinking that my children would have a better education. Unfortunately, I have been struggling to find a permanent job since then. Although I believe in the impermanence of things (this too shall pass), it is very hard not to give up to maladaptive thoughts. Fortunately, when I listen to you or read your posts it’s clear that there is always someone waiting to help out there. We just have to nurture those connections. Thank you. Manu
Moving from the warmth and stability of Mauritius to the vastness of Canada is an immense act of love for your children, but the weight of this transition, especially the professional struggle, is a heavy burden to bear. It is completely normal to feel this friction between the “awareness” of impermanence and the very real “fear” of the present.
The Harvard Study found that "social fitness" is as vital as physical fitness for longevity. I believe the modern "loneliness epidemic" is actually a sensory crisis; digital screens provide the information of connection without the healing biological presence of another person.
Just maintaining the uptempo and taking life day by day is what one needs to be done. A lot of things can be planned for a year but showing up everyday for oneself & for others as well is what I believe in. Whatever one is going through, everybody needs someone to have the back for sometime in the tough times and when shooting for some goal in life one needs support to thrive in the environment. Both to survive the roadblocks and tough times in life & to peak perform in any walk of life- one needs support and yes we need to support each other unconditionally if we have the time & bandwidth to do it. Life is not just about showing up for your own self, it is much more than that, show for others and uplift them when they feel like they are down & out in their lives.
Recent studies in "interpersonal neurobiology" show that when we support others, our own brain releases oxytocin, which physically repairs heart tissue. I believe helping others isn't just moral; it’s a biological survival strategy that heals the helper's own trauma.
💛 Love this. Being a human who does stay happy most of the time (even the hard times) I can tell you it’s mostly about remembering a few things:
1) to have a “this too shall pass” mentality
2) being grateful for what I do have
3) knowing sometimes we have to go through it to get to it.
Cliche? Maybe but I’ll take it.
Very well said! 🙏
Dear Manu, it sounds like a difficult transition, which is always the case when we uproot from one home and make another. Of course, we can never know the outcomes of what we do in advance. All you know is that you were making the best decision you could at the time when you decided to emigrate. I hope things settle down and that you come to feel that Canada is a good new home.
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Hi Robert. I am a regular listener of your podcasts on Insight Timer. Now I have just started reading your posts on Substack. I am going through tough times right now. Two years ago I left a cushy job and immigrated from Mauritius to Canada thinking that my children would have a better education. Unfortunately, I have been struggling to find a permanent job since then. Although I believe in the impermanence of things (this too shall pass), it is very hard not to give up to maladaptive thoughts. Fortunately, when I listen to you or read your posts it’s clear that there is always someone waiting to help out there. We just have to nurture those connections. Thank you. Manu
Moving from the warmth and stability of Mauritius to the vastness of Canada is an immense act of love for your children, but the weight of this transition, especially the professional struggle, is a heavy burden to bear. It is completely normal to feel this friction between the “awareness” of impermanence and the very real “fear” of the present.
The Harvard Study found that "social fitness" is as vital as physical fitness for longevity. I believe the modern "loneliness epidemic" is actually a sensory crisis; digital screens provide the information of connection without the healing biological presence of another person.
Just maintaining the uptempo and taking life day by day is what one needs to be done. A lot of things can be planned for a year but showing up everyday for oneself & for others as well is what I believe in. Whatever one is going through, everybody needs someone to have the back for sometime in the tough times and when shooting for some goal in life one needs support to thrive in the environment. Both to survive the roadblocks and tough times in life & to peak perform in any walk of life- one needs support and yes we need to support each other unconditionally if we have the time & bandwidth to do it. Life is not just about showing up for your own self, it is much more than that, show for others and uplift them when they feel like they are down & out in their lives.
Recent studies in "interpersonal neurobiology" show that when we support others, our own brain releases oxytocin, which physically repairs heart tissue. I believe helping others isn't just moral; it’s a biological survival strategy that heals the helper's own trauma.
Thank you so much for your insights and sharing.